Gone are the days when having sex early in a relationship was considered taboo. I guess you could say society has become a lot more open about sexual customs and sexuality in general over the years. It’s wonderful that we, as women, no longer need to cover our ankles and wear chapeaus to church every Sunday. However, just because our section of the world – here in North America – is more willing to accept that women enjoy sex, too! It doesn’t mean that we should toss sex around like a bottle of wine on ladies’ night.

I’ve been a dating coach and matchmaker for more than a decade – here’s my perspective on sex in new relationships: Ladies, make him wait. One thing I’ve learned through my own personal experiences and my career as a matchmaker is that men willwait for sex, if you impose a no-sex right away policy.

Ladies, I’m not saying make him wait for ten months, but holy, six to eight dates with no sex to start a relationship never hurt anyone. And if you do go on a date with a guy who loses interest in you because you won’t have sex right off the hop, he clearly isn’t that serious about being in a relationship with you. If a guy can’t respect your wishes from the beginning, he’ll never respect you.

Conversely, to say a guy won’t respect you if you have sex with him on the first date, well, I don’t necessarily think that is true. Some men aren’t as old-fashion as others. That being said, I think he’ll respect you more if you don’t have sex early in the relationship, and here is why… Read more through our friends @Single In The City


About the Author: 



Laura Bilotta is a dating coach, matchmaker and the co-founder of successful dating websiteSingleinthecity.ca. Laura established Single in the City in 2002. Since its early beginnings twelve years ago, Laura’s efforts and expertise have allowed Single in the City to become one of the largest event based dating companies in the Greater Toronto Area. 

Laura’s expert knowledge of dating etiquette, relationships, and human behaviour form the base of her experience. She has hosted over one-thousand speed dating/mixer events, coached more than one-hundred men and women into dating gurus, and she has proudly played matchmaker for countless love-seeking singles.

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